This past year I’ve read some really great books about relationships at different stage and how you go from dating someone to proposing to ultimately marrying them. Relationships as a whole are never easy but these books help highlight what you need to know to build the best relationships possible. Below are my 5 favorite books that I recommend reading for yourself!
1. I Hear You: The Surprisingly Simple Skill Behind Extraordinary Relationships
I loved reading this book because of its simplicity in the message. Whether you’re looking to improve your relationship with your spouse, navigate difficult conversations at work, or connect on deeper levels with friends and family, this book provides practical and proven techniques to have the best relationships you’ve ever had.
“Validation has two main elements. It 1) acknowledges a specific emotion, and 2) offers justification for feeling that emotion.” – Michael Sorensen, author
2. The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts
Before reading this book, it wasn’t clear to me that everyone receives love differently. For example, I prefer being told “I love you” as a sign of affection. For others, physical touch may be how they receive affection best. Read this and you will look at how you and your loved one receives love much differently!
5 Love Languages
- Words of affirmation
- Quality time
- Receiving gifts
- Acts of service
- Physical touch
3. The Groom’s Instruction Manual: How to Survive and Possibly Even Enjoy the Most Bewildering Ceremony Known to Man
In this book are countless tips that you will need prior to your big day as it relates to what to bring, who should be in charge of what, and how to deal with any issues. There will of course always be elements that arise last second that are completely out of your control (weather, sickness, etc.) but for everything else, this book has you covered. How do you handle feuding relatives? Check ✅. What should you look for in a good wedding photographer? Also check ✅. Unless you’ve gone through the motions, it’s hard to know exactly what to look for.
4. Weddings Unfiltered: The No Bullsh*t Wedding Planning Guide
Too many wedding books and guidelines paint your big day in the most optimistic light where unicorns float across the sky and perfection is around every corner. Not that this book doesn’t hope for the best on your wedding day, but it helps articulate the TRUE ins and outs of weddings. I also really liked this book because it talks about everything with a dose of sarcasm and humor, which is very much needed when planning one of the most important days of your life.
5. Things I Wish I’d Known Before We Got Married
Marriage requires a lot of work and while you’ll enjoy a lot of happiness, there may be times where you’ll need to work as a team to overcome obstacles. This book covers off on how to solve disagreements without arguing, how to talk through issues like money, and what the adequate foundation for a successful marriage truly is. It’s helpful to read everything too coming from a psychologist who himself has been married over 45 years!
What books did you read that you recommend? Let me know!